In Jurassic World, Claire is uptight, and all business. That’s because she’s overseeing a theme park, which features living, breathing dinosaurs. When a dinosaur breach occurs, she tracks it, making plans, keeping an eye on containing the problem. But when she realizes her two nephews are lost in the park, she pulls up her sleeves, ties up her shirt, and is ready to trek through anything to save them… high heels and all.
Where in your life are you unsatisfied? Your career? Your relationships? Your health? Your finances? Another area? Are you having trouble picking one? If so, I know how you feel. In my book from Burnout to Bliss, I reveal a turning point in my life, when I’d been working myself ragged only to land in a (very loud) MRI machine because my doctor wanted to examine my brain. My brain… that was a wake up call, not to mention a HUGE motivator. I immediately began working with my doctor, a nutritionist and an acupuncturist to put together a plan that would get me back to good health!
It took hitting rock bottom with my health to pay attention. As Tony Robbins says, “If you don’t pay attention, you pay with pain.” What does rock bottom look like to you? Is it a dwindling bank account that won’t cover next month’s expenses? Is it a marriage where you and your spouse are sleeping in separate rooms? Is it a career that you’ve been pursuing for decades and you haven’t found success? Maybe you haven’t hit rock bottom yet, but at the rate you’re going, you fear you will.
Write your biggest concern: __________________________________________.
When you look at it, it stinks! Why? Because it’s obviously something that matters to you, but you’re not motivated enough to do what needs to be done to stop it from being a concern.
So what’s it going to take to motivate yourself out of your rock bottom situation? For Claire, it was a fierce desire to save her family. For me, it was a fierce desire to get well and live a long healthy life. What will it be for you?
While I can’t answer that without having a conversation with you (which I’d be happy to arrange if you’d like to do a 30 minute free strategy session, just email me and we can set it up,) your dreams and aspirations—YOU DESERVE THEM!!! So, here are a few questions to help you come up with your own motivator:
Are you motivated by hitting rock bottom, or do you get stuck there and life gets worse?
- Are you motivated by setting an example for others like your children or colleagues?
- Are you motivated by financial reward?
- Are you motivated by recognition?
- Are you motivated by accountability?
- Are you motivated by protecting others from harm?
Which one of these questions gave you a firm YES! And if none of them, is there something you know motivates you, or are you so stuck in your own mess or ego that you feel helpless?
Everyone is motivated by something. If you truly want to accomplish your goals and live the life of your dreams, you must uncover your massive motivator!
- Define your massive motivator
- Put a plan in place for the next 90 days to reach a specific goal in the area where you feel most concerned.
- If you need help email me at Jessica@JessicaSitomer.com with the subject line Strategy Session, and let’s talk!
Claire not only found her nephews and got them to safety, she grew leaps and bounds as a person, all in the span of 24 hour. So what’s possible for you? I’d love to read your answer in the comments below…
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Jessica, first of all I laughed at the Claire high heels comment. I really think Nike missed an opportunity there. Back to your motivation ideas, great thought to give people 90 days to work on their “massive motivators.” Thanks!
It was a funny scene!
This is so timely and your book might just be the kick-start I need. In the process of re-evaluating pretty much everything to adjust for more bliss. Thanks for the helpful questions. Time to do some journaling and soul searching.
I’m glad it was timely for you.. enjoy the book!
Great way to get people to focus. Your personal story about the MRI and hitting rock bottom! A wake up call! Sometimes that is what it takes to motivate people.
One of the basic concepts in psychology is the pleasure/pain principle. So long as the pleasure is even minimally more than the pain no change occurs. You’ve asked some solid questions of yourself and others. I believe that many times the pain is deferred while the pleasure is immediate. That’s where the rub comes in and why, often, a wake up call is what precipitates change.